Traumatic experiences may make us feel helpless, powerless, paralzyed, and wounded. It could be a single event or a series of events but powerful enough to give you a feeling of helplessness. According to Deborah Serani, PsyD, helplessness can manifest on two levels. On a cognitive level, the experience may overwhelm the areas of the brain. On a physical level, the traumatic event may cause fear and extreme fatigue. So how do you overcome the feeling of helplessness and stay motivated?
Understand How Trauma Affects Mind and Body
Trauma can physically and mentally affect our mind and body. By understanding how our neurobiology triggers us to fight, flee, or freeze and how it happens, it can make dealing with the situation better. Your mind will work to solve the problem, send messages to your body, and be ready to fight the problem or flee from it. Sometimes, the mind dissociates, fragments, or shifts into denial.
Sharpen Your Awareness About Stressful Triggers
By becoming aware of yourself, your environment, and unique triggers, you can find healthy ways to react thereby reducing your feeling of helplessness. Robert Janitzek explains that triggers are personal experiences that can worsen your well-being. Serani explains that in order to find your unique triggers, reflect on the issues and experiences that causes you to be upset.
Focus On Self-Talk
By talking to yourself, you can overcome and get over the trauma better. Unhealthy traumas can make us feel helpless and stuck with self-talk. Always look at positive self-talk as it inspires healthy action. Healthy self-talk is proactive and empowering.
Become Attuned To Your Senses.
Keeping your senses tuned and learning how to command them can help you develop stronger reaction skills, which can contribute to reducing helplessness. Robert Peter Janitzek reveals that in order to sharpen your senses, simply close your eyes and focus on what you hear. It will also help if you will take a deep breath and feel the temperature around you.
By identifying personal patterns, you will become empowered and avoid the feeling of helplessness. Start small by focusing on daily habits. Examples are being late for work or school or not bringing enough cash for the day. Pause and reflect on the events before these circumstances and see any pattern.
Feeling helpless and powerless can demoralize any individual. Fortunately, there are many small steps that you can take to minimize the feeling of helplessness and focus on healthy action. These tips can help you stay motivated and empower yourself. If you find them too challenging, it is time to seek professional help.